The first two part of this write up has been hopefully able to give you an idea of how virginity is being viewed in modern times, also especially in part two it gives a brief history on the hymen. (If you’re yet to read them, kindly do so). This part is more of personal experiences about the modern day realities of choosing to keep or lose your virginity.
Aunty Kemi , 28,is so sorry she’s not a virgin . She says she wishes she had not given in to the desire to have sex with her boyfriend at that time. Not only did she end up not marrying her then lover, but the man she married was virgin. She would often say that “I felt so low and ashamed ; after all its harder for guys to quench their sexual desires . Even though there is nothing I can do about it, I still wish I had waited. “
Aunty Kemi’s husband says it wasn’t an easy task to remain celibate, but it was something he’d made up his mind to do. ‘It’s just my personal decision, though I had to ask God for help and grace. Any man will confidently tell you that it’s not easy to resist. Even though being a virgin doesn’t mean necessarily means a person is a good spouse material of good character, I strongly believe that everyone should try their best to keep themselves whole until marriage.
But not everyone believes in waiting. Uncle Tunde is a single 25 year old guy who takes pride is counting scores with the amount of ladies he’s had sex with ( frankly most guys in their 20’s are like this )” I believe that previous sexual escapades by a man improves the couple’s sex life , making it more interesting , as the man passes on to his bride what he’s learned “ he says. But when it comes to his future wife he wants a virgin. ‘Because of their emotional nature, I believe women have more to lose when they give up their virginity before getting married. Virginity builds trust in a relationship. If a man has to choose between a girl who is a virgin and one who isn’t, most will go for the who is still one.
Double standards? This is true, women have had to contend with double standards from the ancient days , back in the days , if a goddess or queen wanted respect, she had to be virgin- something that simply didn’t apply to kings and gods . Funny enough back then a male virgin would be a prime candidate for some nasty ritual practices or sacrifice.
What are your experiences as virgin ,if you’re not one , do you regret giving it out ??? Thank you
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